Five ways to deal with a troubled relationship
Lovers often reach a point in their relationship when things might seem to have uncontrollably gone south.
Perhaps both the partners might be having troubles sorting out their feelings or the relationship may have lost its spark.
It could also be that one of the partners wants out and does not know how to say the word.
Whichever may be the case, one must agree that the burden of an unstable relationship can be too much to bear.
Sitting on your emotions and letting the relationship run out of juice won’t do either of you any good.
Here are five tips on dealing with a troubled relationship.
Evaluate your feelings
Relationships might often be tricky such that one or both partners might be unsure as to how they about each other.
It might help to give yourself the benefit of doubt, define your feelings about your partner and ask yourself if you are truly (or still) attracted to this person.
Doing this would help ascertain your personal convictions regarding the relationship, determine where things have gone wrong and offer you clues on how to proceed.
While it might be tempting to bug your partner over his/her somewhat indifferent approach to the relationship, doing so might smother him/her, causing unnecessary conflicts.
Giving the troubled partner some time and space might be ideal while making a conscious effort to rekindle the lost romance in the relationship.
Suggesting that you both go shopping together, do the movies or have a sumptuous meal without being pushy might help him or her have a feel of the old times.
Talk it out
Eventually, one of the partners has to muster the courage to broach a heart-to-heart conversation, addressing issues plaguing the relationship.
Irrespective of whichever turn the conversation takes, we must agree that having had it would help you make an informed decision.
Perhaps, you’re not the only one concerned about the turn the relationship has taken and maybe a collective approach would better address the issues.
Take a break if necessary
After much effort, you must eventually take a decisive stance on the relationship, act logically and follow what your instincts tell you.
There have been cases where the romance in the relationship comes back stronger after partners had broken up.
Yes, taking a break could help the partners determine how important the relationship is to them and help them see how they are hurting not just themselves but the other partner.
Perhaps a break up would help the other partner figure out their own mistakes and come after you or maybe it might be a great opportunity for you to redefine your standards and try someone new.