Best man stops wedding to propose to his girlfriend! What would you do?
The internet has rallied around an anonymous bride who sought advice after a friend upstaged her at her own wedding.
The story surfaced via a letter sent in by the bride to Slate’s Dear Prudence advice column, where she revealed that her marriage was being officiated by her husband’s best friend ‘John’ when he stopped in the middle of the ceremony to propose to his girlfriend.
The bride was asking agony aunt Mallory Ortberg whether or not she had a reason to be angry. Unsurprisingly, Mallory’s answer was a firm ‘yes’.
But not only that – after a user on Twitter spotted the story and shared it online, social media erupted in rage on behalf of the upstaged bride.
In her letter, the bride explains how she and her husband already had a child and lived together before getting married, adding that they waited until a point in their lives when they could afford ‘a huge blowout wedding’ to do things right.
As a part of their perfect day, they asked the groom’s best man John if he would also officiate the wedding.
‘The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed. My mum may have used the phrase “hallelujah” a few dozen times. The entire atmosphere felt moving,’ the bride wrote.
‘So moving in fact that John stopped mid-ceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, “Jane”, and reveal her pregnancy.’
From that point on, the bride’s blow out, expensive wedding became someone else’s party altogether.
‘I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests and people seated nearby congratulating her. Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony and you can’t hear anything over the chatter, she said.
‘When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us. During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests.’
John even had the nerve to request a special song for himself and Jane to dance to at the reception.
The incident led to a huge rift between the former best friends, with the bride’s now-husband refusing to talk to John – and though the couple’s mutual friends think that John’s timing was rude, they think her husband should get over it.
‘My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for “their half of the wedding”,’ she said, asking Mallory where she should go from here.
Mallory advises a frank conversation between the bride’s husband and John, saying that though it will end up likely being a fight, it will be worth it.
‘He’s your husband’s best friend, so your husband should tell John just how upset his behavior during your wedding made him,’ she said. ‘Maybe John will apologize and the two of them can have a meaningful reconciliation and build a better friendship as a result.’
However, when the story hit social media, there weren’t many people out there so willing to forgive if they were in the bride’s shoes.
‘Yeah, no, friendship over,’ wrote one user, while another added: ‘Someone who does that is not your best friend. If you can’t let your friend have a day, you ain’t their friend.’
One user warned anyone against trying that at his wedding, saying: ‘I will fight you in a tux,’ while one woman said she would take revenge on the couple by ‘giving birth at their wedding. If I have to induce the labor, no problem.’